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This is one unique article I’ve written on how a person can slip into an extramarital affair – sometimes without realising it. Let me start by saying a statement: unless you have little morals or conscience, I can safely bet that no one wants to be involved in an affair intentionally.

The same pattern is always followed, those signs that you don’t pay much attention to – to make you aware that you are about to be caught in a rip dangerous to your heart. Of course, it is too easy to overlook these signs and hence many people won’t realise it until after they’re stuck;

And when you finally realise, getting out will not be an easy task as it involves breaking someone’s heart – including yours. So how can you be made aware of the extramarital affair danger? Read on to see the warning signs.

The first stage of an affair is a friendly one. Someone become friends with someone else other than their spouse because of similar interests or hobby. This can happen anywhere including the workplace or social groups you belong to. At this stage attraction may or may not yet exist and therefore is probably still harmless.

When a friendship that has formed moves into a closer friendship that’s when the first sign of emotional affair comes to surface. More stories will be shared and before you know it, intimate stories including problems with your spouse will also be included in your conversation topic with your so-called close friend.

Now before we go any further, realise that a close friend – no matter how close is not your spouse. I can bet again that this friend has not had a chance to show most of his/her bad habits and behaviour; and to be honest you know this person mostly based on his/her words rather than action.

He or she may give you personal opinions offering resolutions to your problems – mind you these resolution sounds good to your ear.

Before you know it, you start comparing your spouse with your friend – and this is starting to get dangerous. You may already be emotionally involved with your friend to some degree – but of course you still have your conscience and extramarital affair may still be out of the picture.

The last stage of this ‘dangerous zone’ is when you start sharing deep emotional heart-to-heart stuff. This definitely leads to a deeper emotional affair where you start feeling understood, feeling close to the other person. You will feel loved and starting from there, you may start wondering what it would be like to have a spouse just like this friend of yours.

At this stage your conscience is slowly being eaten away by your feeling of ‘being loved once again’ or ‘finding a soul mate a little late’. This, together with the excitement rush will pull you down so quickly into the emotional extramarital affair rip.

Soon enough you will create an atmosphere – or you may find yourself in an atmosphere where someone ‘happens’ to cross the physical line with a kiss or any other sexual touch. You may be helped by alcohol but lets just say worst case scenario you may accidentally sleep with your friend – involving a high degree of emotional intimacy.

You cannot get out…

Yes now you know extramarital affairs does NOT just naturally happen. It carries many warning signs – but it’s up to you to choose to mask those signs with the ‘ah he/she is just a friend’ statement. There is no such a thing as having no control of the situation from the start. Knowing these signs will arm you with logic to stop you from getting too deep into the rut.

Remember though, no matter how much you are armed everyone is vulnerable of falling into this emotional rut. Do not overestimate yourself as even you – yes YOU – are just as vulnerable to this as anyone else. Do not think that ‘it will never happen between us’ as you don’t know what your emotions are capable of.

Make sure you are aware of the boundaries and pay close attention to these signs.