Thinking Of The Right Words To Say To Your Princess
For most men, being romantic doesn’t come naturally. In fact, as much as we try to “be cool”, romance often makes guys down right nervous. It might be comforting to know, however, that those guys who seem to have it all together about women also get nervous sometimes when it’s time to turn on the romance. Its just part of the way men and women are wired that girls naturally seem drawn to romance and guys have to work to get there.
But take heart because you can learn how to know the perfect words to say to the perfect girl in those moments of sweetness and romance. And the fact that you are already thinking about learning how to be a better sweetheart for your sweetheart means you are going to be ahead of the game when the time comes.
How often have you been watching some romantic movie with your girl and the handsome devil on the screen comes up with the perfect words to say that turns his girl into a love making machine? We are actually surrounded by romantic thoughts in the movies, on TV, in the songs we listen to and on the greeting cards we buy for Valentines Day or for birthdays. So is it a good idea to just memorize some romantic sayings and have your list on three by five cards ready to use when you want the date to make that transition from fun and light socializing to true romance and passion?
It’s not cheating to get ready in advance to please your girl with sweet words of romance. When you think about it, few of us think romantic thoughts as we go through our days at work or at school. So when you change your focus from the mundane world to the world of romance on your date that night, you have to be able to shift how you think so romance naturally comes out of you. Keeping romantic ideas and verses written down to read through while you prepare for being with her gets your mind going down the right path so when you are with her, you know better how to tell her how you feel.
In fact, the last thing you want to do is just repeat romantic words from some poem or song hoping that will work. The “trick” of saying romantic things that makes her melt in your arms is to speak the real romance you already feel. If you were to just start chanting learned lines you saw her react to during the last movie you saw, she would see right through that. And to try something clumsy like that is worse than not trying to sweet talk your girl at all.
So the clue its time to say something romantic comes when those feelings come up inside you for her during the date. By putting your mind in a romantic mood like your heart is in, you can just put in words the feelings you have very naturally in your own words, not somebody else’s words. Don’t worry. If it isn’t all flowery and sound like something from a movie, she will know it’s from your heart and she will absolutely love it.
Girls have a natural feeling for when you are being real with them and when you are being phony. So by starting from your genuine feelings and letting them flow out in expressions of affection, admiration and romance, you will come up with the “right” thing to say and say it at the exactly right time. It’s like using “the force” from Star Wars. You will know how to do it right if you follow that inner voice.
The key is to recognize that thought when you have it buried inside and to have the courage to let it out. Yes, for a guy saying romantic things is all about courage. So often you have thought “Wow, she is so beautiful right now” but you don’t say it. Just as woman have an instinct for knowing honesty, men have one for keeping their real feelings to themselves. You have to overcome those feelings of hesitancy so you can speak your emotions of admiration, of love and even of sentimentality when they occur.
It might be as you cuddle watching sunset and inside you feel that you want that moment to last forever. You will have to build a superhighway between the feeling of that emotion and the saying of it. But once that feeling comes out of your mouth, in words that you use and phrases that are natural to you, they will go right to the heart of your girl.
Now you know the secret that the “lover boys” know that instead of imitating other romantic people, you just turn your eyes inward and discover the romantic guy in you. He is already there. You just have kept him from saying anything to your girl. But by letting that part of you out and letting your lover know your real feelings, you will go from being nervous and clumsy at loving talk to being very good at it indeed.
